Monthly Archives: June 2013

Leaders with ‘attitude’.

attitude is everything
Genuine “Leaders” have an attitude about them

Have you ever noticed that the leaders you admire have an ‘attitude’ about them?

This is because people who are true ‘leaders’ are not easily discouraged by obstacles and issues that might deter others. In fact, they don’t see them as “obstacles and issues,” but problems to solve and situations to work through.

A real leader will work and play hard to find and keep their ‘team’ and or business together.

In essence….

Leaders are not daunted by failure:
Leaders believe that if you fear failure too much then you’ll have a hard time getting past breakfast!

Leaders are not daunted by rising before the sun does:
Show me a successful lazy entrepreneur and I’ll show you a purple horse. A true leader will work as hard as you.

Leaders are not daunted by hard work:
In fact they don’t think of it as “work.” Instead they think of it as an investment in you, their team and the business….in your joint business partnership.

Leaders are not daunted by risk:
Too much risk is seldom good; but nothing really innovatively great is ever accomplished without some degree of risk, very often there can be quite a bit of risk to achieving greatness.

Leaders not daunted by ownership and responsibility:
Leaders have no choice but to take it, Leaders believe that if you want the rewards then you and they have to ‘go with the flow’ and also take ownership and responsibility along the way.

Leaders are not daunted by conflict:
Conflict is the currency of leadership; you have to be able to handle it effectively or your team, and other colleagues won’t want to follow you.

Leaders are not daunted by what they can’t see with the naked eye:
Vision in a business means looking past the horizon to opportunity invisible to others.

Leaders are not daunted by bare forearms:
As in the kind that goes with rolled-up sleeves and being part of a wider team.

Leaders re not daunted by the unknown:
True leaders work at their business relationships and look for new ideas. They are open to try new things to maintain their business growth.

Leaders are not daunted by admitting fault:
A real leader instinctively know that too much hubris, excessive pride or arrogance and they will have trouble being with others, which of course they need to in order to accomplish what they want and need to be fulfilled themselves.

Daunted by ‘leadership’?
Are you or any of your team daunted by ‘leadership’?

If you would like to learn more about our “Mentoring and Coaching Programmes” or just simply require some “Inspirational Leadership Training” then please feel free to contact us.

Trisha Proud
Partners in Solutions Ltd
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https://twitter.com/proudtrisha

Why sleep is so important

Sleeping at work
Rested – Ready for the week?

Apparently it is a little known secret that sleep is critical, not just for beauty rest, but for plenty of health reasons; not least of which is that getting enough sleep helps us perform better in our jobs!

Doing things that are not really relevant
Sadly it has become acceptable and even encouraged in business today to ‘stay busy’. Nature cycles and human beings are a part of this nature. When we disrupt our natural sleep cycles in favour of ‘getting more done,’ we actually become less effective. Typically, because we don’t take time to reflect on what is purposeful and important to us, we often find ourselves doing things that are not really relevant to our own aims, goals and desires

Are some of you thinking, ‘what aims, goals and desires?’ There are an awful lot of people out there that have lost sight of what is truly important to them.

To-do lists good or bad?
As a trainer of “time management” I advocate ‘to-do lists’ but I don’t advocate becoming addicted to them! For many they have become addicted to ‘to-do’ lists without holding a clear endgame goal in mind. This is energetically inefficient and physically draining. There’s typically no passion in this and thus it becomes no more than hard work instead of enjoyable. It can also take much longer to do, when we are not focused.

De-valuing self-nurturance
Also, because many business cultures tend to de-value self-nurturance, play, and creative relaxing pursuits, many people feel guilty or invalidated by those around them, when they attempt to live with more work vs. life balance.

Be courageous – create space
It takes courage and vision to create space in your life, so that you can stay healthy in spirit, mind and body. It takes courage to listen to your heart above the noise of the many distractions vying for your attention and money. And it will take courage and focused attention to slow down in the evening, early enough to get your mind and body prepared to go to sleep at a decent hour. On average, it is aid that we need at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep a night.

What are the benefits of sleep?
1. Improved memory: sleep helps to integrate learning. Greater focus and concentration improves with a good night’s sleep.

2. Stress reduction: sleep restores the body and mind and helps to balance well-being. When we are too stressed, it may be more difficult to sleep at night and this can become a vicious cycle. When we don’t get enough sleep, it makes it more difficult to deal with stress.

3. Bodily healing and rejuvenation: sleep reduces inflammation in the body. Chronic inflammation is associated with heart attack, stroke, premature aging, diabetes and arthritis

Don’t be short-sighted
Life is not a sprint, it is a long-distance journey. It is short-sighted to abuse your mind and body, as in the long run. Stress and lack of sleep not only makes you less productive, it can accelerate the aging process and even contribute to other diseases. Be wise. Be courageous. Take good care of yourself and expand the vision for your life – with purpose.

Manage your time better
Sleep should not be regarded as a luxury; is a means of rejuvenating your mind and body in readiness for the workload ahead. So make sure that you get enough rest and relaxation time in order to performance your job better!

If you would like to learn more about how to manage your stress, time and workloads better then please contact us.
Trisha Proud
Partners in Solutions Ltd
http://www.pins.uk.com
https://twitter.com/proudtrisha

Emotions Matter!

Emotions 1
Are you an emotional decision maker?
All of us make decisions – everyday, whether at home, work or simply just socializing. There surely can be no doubt that this is a key skill to master.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP tells us that there are primarily four types of people:
• Kinaesthetic
• Visual
• Auditory
• Auditory Visual

The name Neuro-Linguistic Programming was invented in the early 1970’s as an attempt to describe in a succinct manner the scope of this extensive body of insights and skills:
Neuro refers to how the mind and body interact

Linguistic refers to the insights into a person’s thinking that can be obtained by careful attention to their use of language

Programming refers, not to the activity of programming, but to the study of the thinking and behavioural patterns or ‘programmes’ which people use in their daily lives.

Dependant on what NLP category you are likely, (not always) but more often likely to make decisions based on:
• What you feel and sense and can physically touch
• What you can see
• What you can hear
• What details, facts and figures there are to help support your decision

Clearly the latter category makes decisions on less ‘emotion’.

Neuroscience
Although neuroscience has built a strong body of evidence over the years to demonstrate the inextricable link between reason, emotion and decision-making most of mainstream culture is still not on board with it.

As a management trainer I often recommend keeping emotion out of decision-making and that professionals leave their feelings at home when they are at work. There are some that still believe that women, especially, wear the mantle of emotionality in the workplace and that these women still feel the need to compensate by subduing the expression of their feelings and thoughts. This surely cannot be healthy.

Although neuroscience has built a strong body of evidence over twenty-five years to demonstrate the inextricable link between reason, emotion and decision-making most of mainstream culture still doesn’t get it.

Mainstream thinking about reason over emotion is generally based on two assumptions:
1. That we have a choice whether to feel or not
2. That emotional “suppression” works.

Hooray! – The brain does make decisions based on feeling
Research has found that there can be significant consequences when you try to push away thoughts and feelings; a ‘rebound’ effect. Simply put, these strategies often backfire and result in an increase of the intensity of the thoughts and emotions that are being suppressed.

In the book: “How we decide” by Jonah Lehrer; it the case that rationality depends on emotion. Motivation is driven by feeling, not intellect. Lehrer points out, “Emotion and motivation share the same Latin root, movere, which means to move. The world is full of things and it is our feelings that help us choose among them.”

Avoiding analysis-paralysis
Many of us try to rule out the emotional side of decision-making only to find we become stuck in so-called analysis-paralysis. We often avoid making decisions or make them hastily because we want to skip the feeling part, not only unavoidable, it’s short-sighted.

There continues to be a protracted controversy between pundits over reason and intuition, which is another version of the ancient reason over emotion battle. Lehrer makes the critical point that our emotional brains are deeply empirical and that every time you make a mistake or encounter something new, your brain cells are busy changing themselves. Emotions are profoundly smart and constantly learning, they are not simply animal instincts that must be tamed.

Balancing 7 + 2
What is known as the “7 plus or minus 2” rule is based on the research that short-term memory capacity varies from being able to hold between 4 and 9 bits of information at one time. When faced with too many variables, the brain simply makes the wrong decision because its resources are overburdened.

The Chunking Principle:• Chunking is a principle that applies to the effective communication of information between human beings.
• It is particularly useful in the domain of written communication.
• It was first put forward in the 1950s by George A. Miller.
• Miller studied the short term memory.

In 1952, George A. Miller published a paper titled:
“The Magical Number Seven; Plus or Minus Two”

Today chunking is a term used in NLP to describe the process of grouping items into larger or smaller groups (or “chunks”) Chunking helps you to organise your thinking in order to better handle information and make decisions. So you need to make sure that you can optimize your decision-making process but not taking on too much.

Left and right brains
You have to build capacity in both your left and right brains; in other words the rational and the emotional. They are magically interlinked to ensure that we maximize the understanding of the world around us and the world within ourselves.

Emotions matters!
And finally, remember……. Emotions and feelings are not a luxury; they are a means of communicating our states of mind to others. But they are also a way of guiding our own judgments and decisions. Emotions bring the body into the loop of reason. So if you make decisions ‘with emotion’ then give yourself a pat on the back!

If not and you would like to learn more then please contact us.
Trisha Proud
Partners in Solutions Ltd
http://www.pins.uk.com
https://twitter.com/proudtrisha